Lastweek, I offered two first steps to being people who intentionally
choose their life, as opposed to the kind of human default of
passively letting life happen to us.
most, though not all, of us, we have the choice. But it takes work.
It's easier to let life happen. It's much harder to examine it and
make changes. Like Fiyero says in Wicked, “Why invite stress in? Stop studying strife, and learn to live
the unexamined life." (At this point he's not very heroic. So .
. . not words of wisdom really.)
#1 and #2 last week:
out what my priorities are.
god if they are his priorities. (adjust accordingly.)
week, 3 and 4.
my actions line up with those priorities?
is the tough part. We can have great priorities—on paper. But when
daily decisions come calling, do the choices we make display our
three words? Do we choose love over anger? Do we choose to forego a
bonus at work to have more time with our family? Do we choose to take
our kid out of travel soccer so you can say yes to serving others?
it comes down to those decisions, do we consciously let life overrun
us with its status quo, or do we take the wheel and steer it where we
have chosen for it to go?
think this is where most of us fail. We mean well. But the tyranny of
the urgent takes over. The law of physics that says whatever our
current state of movement is, that's where we're likely to stay. It
takes conscious effort to rebel and override the system. What do our
actions, not our intentions, say about our priorities?
Even more steps.
a next step to make it real.
will you do now? A plan is awesome. A plan without actual, concrete
steps toward the goal is just a lovely Facebook meme.
instance, suppose your three words are “give more freely.”
(Totally making this up on the fly here.) One of the things you do to make that
happen is sign up for a 6k run/walk to benefit clean water
initiatives. (OK, not making that up. I'm doing that.) Then you
realize you're in such bad shape you breathe heavily walking to the
And smiley faces. Because . . .
you made it.
step: Walk a half mile tomorrow. Walk five minutes more each day. Not
fast. Not perfectly. But the next real step is to start walking and
then up that distance gradually. It's simple. Achievable. Doable. And
easy to gauge if it really gets done. See how
much more likely that is to happen than a vague goal of “I want to
do something to help other people”?
do your actions says about your priorities? What's your next step?
I'd love to hear!