See, I knew that title would get you to read.
This is
week four of talking about Gretchen Rubin's questions to ask when you
have a decision to make that look a little . . . iffy. Scary. Risky.
Un-com-fort-a-ble.
Fateful
Question #4:
photo by Jef Poskanzer on Flickr, Creative Commons |
What
would I do if I had all the time and money in the world?
Well,
at least this one is fun to ask. It reminds me of the game I used to
play with the kids when I wanted them to stop whining while helping
me with chores. “If you had a million dollars, what would you do
with it?” The top vote getters at the time were: “Feed all the
hungry people in the world” and “buy a giraffe.” We had diverse
interests.
So,
what does asking this question do for your decision-making
capability? It tells you where you would put all your effort if you
could do anything.
If I
had all the time and money in the world, would I still write? Yes, I
would, and I would fund a giant marketing campaign to get my work
actually seen by the Amazon-buying public. That and travel the world,
which I could do as a writer since all I need is a laptop, an
internet source, and a chai latte.
This
tells me I would put all my heart and soul into writing even if it
wasn't a job. I would take the risks of rejection and bad reviews
because I wanted to. That's a powerful statement about what you truly
want out of life and are willing to risk for.
How
does it help you make a decision? If I know what I really want to do,
I am freed to start making plans to find a way to do it. If I ask
myself, “Would I still want this if I had all the money and time in
the world?” and the answer is, “No, I would fly to Fiji and drink
coconut milk and marry a tattoo artist,” perhaps the decision
you're looking at is something you aren't that attached to. Or you
have really unrealistic life goals.
Sometimes,
we decide to do what we don't really want to do short term--so that we do get a longer
term goal. Or, we do it to help someone who needs it because that's what decent people do, even if they don't want to. Sometimes, the instant
payoff sucks, like getting up with the baby three times during the
night and being projectile vomited upon every time, but the long-term
is well worth it. (Having said baby become a best friend and the
joy of your life. Plus help with the cooking.)
But
long-term, if you could do it, no obstacles, would you? That gives you something to focus on while making a decision. Then back to
Question #1—What are you waiting for?
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