“When
I'm reluctant to take a risk or face something uncomfortable”--the
next important question to ask is:
What
steps would make things easier?
Oh,
this one is so important. So often, we don't tackle a decision
because it's completely overwhelming. Our family has this issue—big
time. We have trouble with big, looming “things that must be done”
because we know they are enormous, and we don't know where to start.
So that makes them scary.
If
you're like us, you know what happens. Nothing. Nada. Zip. We look at
that big scary hairy thing and think, “Yeah, maybe I'll stalk my
friend's new boyfriend on Facebook for a while and get back to this
one.” Except we never do.
Enter
question #3--What steps would make things easier?
Ah,
manageable, small, steps. I can do that, right? This works in big and
small ways.
For
instance, you know what happens when you tell your kid, “Clean your
room!” He goes to his room, moves two things from the floor to the
top of the dresser, then flops down on the bed and plays Xbox. Not
because he wants to disobey you (although that may be in the
mix, too), but because he has no idea how to approach something as
humungous as, “Clean your room.” Small, manageable tasks. Pick up your books. Make your bed. Clean the fish tank. See if the fish is still alive. Bring the dishes to the kitchen. Flush the fish.
Say I am
staring at a blank page for a proposal I know is due, and it may just be
the best-selling NYT-list book that gets me that trip to New Zealand, but I can't think of anything better than “Publish my book because
it's amazing and squirrel, tree, monkeys in trees playing with
squirrels, banana!” Am I going to give the whole thing up and go
drown my sorrows at Starbucks?
No.
Well, maybe. At least that last part. But I won't give up. I'll break
it down into steps. Research topic. Look for competing
books. Brainstorm chapter outline. Go get Starbucks. Make raspberry
truffle brownies. Surf Pinterest for a better brownie receipe. Off.
Track.
What
steps would make things easier? For you? Today? To do that big thing
that scares you?
Make a
list.
Put it
in order.
Plan
when and how each step will get done.
Get
what you need to do it.
Do it.
Celebrate
at Starbucks.
Back to
Question #1—What are you waiting for?
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